I still haven't had the "So, can you have sex?" question, but yesterday's train journey was an experience.
The local line from my hometown to the mainline station at Darlington is having its trains upgraded as the Pacers (1980s Leyland bus body on a goods wagon chassis) that are currently used are illegal after the end of the year on the grounds they have no wheelchair accessible toilets (this illegality didn't stop the senior civil servant at the Department for Transport suggesting that replacing them was "a waste" and they should be kept on). When the train pulled up yesterday morning it turned out to (presumably) be the first of the replacements - equally old hand-me-downs that happen to have an accessible toilet (in theory, getting a manual chair in there would be terribly tight, powerchair - forget it). There's a standard marking scheme in use across the British train system, the carriages with wheelchair spaces have the wheelchair symbol by the door on the outside. This one didn't have a symbol on either carriage.
Having gone first to one end looking for the wheelchair symbol, and then to the other, I grabbed the first crewmember I saw, the driver, in the process of changing cabs from one end of the train to the other as we're at the end of the line, and asked him which carriage the wheelchair space was in.
"Er, I dunno."
At this point the guard pops her head out of the door next to us.
"Hey, Carrie, which carriage is the wheelchair space in?"
"Er, I'm not certain, that one, I think."
So she follows me to the front of the train, explaining that the hand-me-downs have just arrived from Scotrail and they've never used them before. And yes, the wheelchair space is there.
"Right, now I have to go and find the ramp," she says.
In the Pacers the ramp was hung on the interior wall of the driver's cab, just in front of the wheelchair space, but that was clearly far too sensible an answer and in these the ramp is hung at the back of the carriage. Wheelchair space at front, ramp at back, that makes sense (particularly when I could see at least four places it could go).
Given the ramp is presumably part of the essential safety equipment if they need to evacuate passengers in a station, the crew not knowing where it is doesn't really give me the warm fuzzies. And if you're replacing trains to improve wheelchair access, then doesn't it make sense to make certain the train crews know the basics of their accessibility features, like which carriage they're in? And having the "improved" wheelchair space feature a broken table really doesn't impress.
So I get to Darlington and the first thing I have to do is grab Passenger Assistance and tell them: "There might be a problem, I was checking my ticket just before I set off, and the seat reservation is for the 12:02 to Kings Cross, but the Passenger Assistance booking is for the 12:29. They were both booked online at the same time, so I genuinely don't know which train I'm supposed to be getting." They were their usual efficient selves and sorted it out - the wheelchair space on the 12:02 was empty, so that was the one they'd put me aboard.
So I get aboard and as I'm getting myself settled the guard makes an announcement. "I'd like to apologise to everyone just getting on board, due to disruption I'm the only crew aboard*, where normally there should be me and 5 or 6 others, so there's no catering facilities in Standard Class and a very limited service in First Class".
* Presumably there was also a driver.
It turned out he actually did have someone helping in First, but he got off at the next station, so I'll imagine the First Class passengers, who are supposed to get a meal and drinks as part of their ticket, were probably revolting.
I did wonder if it was technically safe to run the train in that condition, given the catering crew probably have emergency roles in addition to their normal tasks, but everything went fine until Peterborough, an hour outside London, when Miss I Talk to Everyone Whether they Want Me to or Not got aboard and decided to sit next to me.
It was a production from the moment she appeared and announced "I've got six bags. Do you mind if I put this one against your chair." ('This one' being a black binliner stuffed with god knows what.
So I explained that if she put it there I couldn't get to the toilet when I wanted to.
"Well I'll move it if you ask me to."
So I'll need to stick my hand up like I'm a 5yo asking teacher if I can go to the toilet? No thanks. "No, I'd really prefer you to put it somewhere else."
So she puts it in the luggage rack on the opposite side of the cabin. At which point she announces "This is really heavy. I'm pregnant, I really shouldn't be lifting heavy things."
Hey, great timing, now I feel like the bad guy.
Finally she gets everything arranged, having dragooned the guy sitting opposite into doing it for her. And then proceeds to talk to me constantly for the next hour**, even though I was clearly reading my book. And practically the first thing out of her mouth, presumably prompted by me being insistent on being able to get to the toilet was "So, how do wheelchair users manage to get from their wheelchair to the toilet?"
I decided to avoid the technicalities of side transfers and simply pointed out the five wheelchair users out of six have some ability to stand and/or walk.
Thankfully the third leg of the journey was perfectly normal.
** She talked so much I had the HHGTTG line about "If they don't keep talking their brains start working" running through my head.