Well, the "problem" with intersectionality is that you have to own your own privilege, eventually. But once it's pointed out to you, it makes perfect sense. But like you, I needed it pointing out - in my case through the medium of reading a fuckton of things on Twitter.
Microaggressions are hard to spot - that's part of why it's often hard to spot why one doesn't fit in in a particular environment until someone points out what microaggressions can look like. I got one a few months ago when a coworker was complaining about Doctor Who having a lesbian kiss in it. (Frankly, I'd think interspecies was far more controversial, but who am I to judge?) The person was suggesting that there was no need to put that sort of thing in our faces during prime-time TV (though having no personal objection to lesbians etc). I didn't feel confident enough to speak up (and I pass as straight there), so goodness knows what any gay people there thought (there were at least ten of us, so odds were good that there was at least one). But these things are all over the bloody place, in situations where you don't necessarily expect them :(
I too was surprised by the sheer blatant disregard for disability legislation - I think that employers kind of rely on the fact that you're almost certainly too ill to try suing the fuck out of them. And that if you're in a pretty tight-knit environment, that you don't want to piss people off so much that you can't get another job, should this ever be possible. It feels very much where maternity discrimination was at in white-collar environments around 20 years ago to me - there was legislation in place, but it took a few high-profile, expensive, cases to kick HR practice up a few gears. (Not that it's perfect yet, but there are definitely some big differences between now, 5yrs ago and 20 years ago.)
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Microaggressions are hard to spot - that's part of why it's often hard to spot why one doesn't fit in in a particular environment until someone points out what microaggressions can look like. I got one a few months ago when a coworker was complaining about Doctor Who having a lesbian kiss in it. (Frankly, I'd think interspecies was far more controversial, but who am I to judge?) The person was suggesting that there was no need to put that sort of thing in our faces during prime-time TV (though having no personal objection to lesbians etc). I didn't feel confident enough to speak up (and I pass as straight there), so goodness knows what any gay people there thought (there were at least ten of us, so odds were good that there was at least one). But these things are all over the bloody place, in situations where you don't necessarily expect them :(
I too was surprised by the sheer blatant disregard for disability legislation - I think that employers kind of rely on the fact that you're almost certainly too ill to try suing the fuck out of them. And that if you're in a pretty tight-knit environment, that you don't want to piss people off so much that you can't get another job, should this ever be possible. It feels very much where maternity discrimination was at in white-collar environments around 20 years ago to me - there was legislation in place, but it took a few high-profile, expensive, cases to kick HR practice up a few gears. (Not that it's perfect yet, but there are definitely some big differences between now, 5yrs ago and 20 years ago.)